My MIL wants to come visit. I’m not thrilled by this since she lives in an area with high COVID and she’s not careful at all. I have a 13 month old, my husband and my father (who relies on me for help) are high risk.

When she comes to visit it is completely on her schedule. When she shows up... when she leaves. We’ve had a 2 day visit turn into a month. They have flight benefits through my husbands job so they have a lot of travel flexibility.

She’s a Facebook grandparent. She never asks about my son. Anytime I bring him up in conversation she changes the subject. At the beginning of all of this COVID stuff when everyone was hoarding my son got croup. She called while I was driving around town looking for Motrin to get his fever down. She asked what I was up to. I told her I was driving to my 6th store trying to find Motrin because my son is sick. Her response... not what’s wrong with him, is he okay? “Sylvia’s swim class was cancelled.” Sylvia is her 40 year old niece. She doesn’t care about my son at all ( her only grandchild) but she has pictures of him up all over so she can gush to people about what a great grandparent she is. When we visit she shows me the pictures and asks, “have you seen this one?” Yes I have seen that picture. I took it! 🙄

I’m civil to my MIL but she doesn’t reciprocate. She constantly brings up how pretty, nice and skinny my husbands ex girlfriends are. She’s shared a list of people she wishes would have married her son instead of me.

She criticizes everything in my house. I’ve been berated for heating up too much water for her tea ( after I poured her tea there was 1/2 a cup of water left in the teapot.)

She tells me I need weight loss surgery ( I’m 10 lbs over my ideal body weight. This woman doesn’t have ankles).

She jumps down my throat whenever I say anything ( me casually saying I don’t like golf ended in her screaming at me about being selfish and how many people like golf).

She trashes our house then complains it’s messy ( uses 10 (not an exaggeration) coffee cups in one day then bitches about me not doing the dishes. Uses the kitchen sink as a trash can. Piles used Kleenex’s on furniture.) She rearranges the house. Pulls things off of shelves and leaves them on the cupboard because she’s short. Moves things out of the bedroom into my sons room (pillows, lamps, furniture...). She brings drinking glasses into the bathroom 🤮and doesn’t bring them back so we run out.

She gives me endless crap because I’ve been married before ( husband was unfaithful and abusive) when she’s hardly miss perfect. At dinner one day she randomly blurts out that my husband isn’t an only child, she had a baby at 14. She then proceeds to berate my husband for asking for a sibling when he was 5 and making that hard on her.

She announced this week she was visiting in July. My husband asked when in July because we have some medical appointments out of state. She launched into an attack of we need to make time for her. So we have no idea when she’s coming or for how long.