CRAZY PARENTS

I need some advice.

I’m worried I may have to just cut my parents off soon and I hate that idea, but it’s becoming way too much.

I’m 20 years old and got married almost a year ago. I’ve lived on my own for two years.

I have an older brother who’s 25 and married with a baby on the way and all my parents seem to talk to me and my husband about is how dumb they are with their money.

My parents were on his bank account until last year. (He was married at this point!) Because of this, when I turned 18, I got my own bank account.

Anyways, yesterday I let it slip that I was going 6 hours away by myself to see my best friend that’s in the military. My mom freaked and forced me to take her with me. My dad told me that I wasn’t allowed to do things like this without my conceal and carry. (Which I don’t necessarily want)

I want to be close to my mom but this 6 hour drive is absolutely killing me. She’s being straight racist and all of her comments over BLM and COVID are absolutely so far fetched and straight from FOX news.

She also has just been so negative about my husband. Comments such as:

“well, don’t get on his insurance yet. we don’t know how stable his job is going to be.” (this would be normal, but the way she said it was so negative, like she’s disappointed in him)

“has he checked on you yet?” and when I said he’s asleep because he’s been working nights, she looked very upset

Her and my dad are also trying to control our money without controlling it. My dad called me a couple weeks screaming at me because I told him that I didn’t want to work full time over the summer because they wouldn’t give me full time benefits. He then threatened to take away the $50 a month they give me to help with my car payment (We don’t need it, they just feel obligated to help since they co-signed my loan before I got married).

They also just completely degrade me and call me wild and basically call me the bad child every chance they get. They do this because I was “stubborn” and “always right”.

I’m worried because my husband is getting protective over me and he doesn’t like the way my parents are blaming him for me getting tattoos, moving out, etc. I’m worried him and my dad will get into it sooner rather than later.

Is there anyone that’s struggled with the relationship with their parents?