Right, I want to ttc however a lot of people are putting me down. I’m 21 weighing 85.6kg and I’m 5”1. I am more than obese literally. I was first scared that I won’t be able to see my baby bump and that I may not be able to get pregnant. And I went to a family gathering bare in mind I’m already worried about these things and the lady (who is overweight her self) tells me that I’m too fat and I should loose weight because when I get pregnant I won’t b able to walk and after i give birth I will get even fatter and stay out of breath. She continued to tell me that I should go on walks with my husband so I can loose the weight. This hurt me a lot.

So, after being in continuous thought I decided to ask my husbands grandma ‘who I’m very close with’ that how should I loose abit of weight . And lord bless my ears I wish i had never asked because I am now paranoid. She told me that I should loose weight because I’m too fat and when I get pregnant I’ll just keep getting fatter, won’t be able to walk, and die. But a much worse thing she said that has stuck is that I won’t be able to have sex because I’ll be that fat that my husband won’t have access to me. She continued to tell me that if I do end up like that my husband will go look for sex else or maybe things could end in divorce, because like us women men talk within themselves and they put the man down leading to these decisions. I just feel like absolute shit how can his grandma say that. I told him and he literally couldn’t believe what he was hearing he was shocked and then obviously my one and only told me he doesn’t have a problem with me being fat at all he told me he loves me the way I am. Then he continued to tell me that loosing weight was all my choice and no one could force me to do it he told me that he wanted me to stay healthy keep away from junk food and so on. I just don’t understand why his grandma couldn’t say that keeping my feeling in mind. I reallllllly want to loose weight but it’s just so harrrrrrdddd it killing me. How do I lose it fr how I see so many people on this app with amazing results and then there’s me adding the pounds on like never b4.

Sorry for the rant but I need people to talk to and answer my questions on how to loose weight but also keep my feelings in mind I’m sick of crying myself to sleep because of what some one says. Thanks for listening if you got this far

P.s your all uniquely beautiful don’t let yourself get hurt by anyone stay strong people love you x