My house is a disaster

My house is a disaster, like every room in the house is a mess. I’ve always been a messy person which sucks, as a child I remember my room being a mess all the time, and what’s worse is I’ve always had trouble getting rid of things. I’ve read that being a messy person could be caused by an underlying issue with your mental health. I’ve never been checked for any of that but I like to think maybe I’m just naturaly messy. Or sucks tho because I’m so happy when my house is clean, a clean house makes me feel relaxed, motivated, and happy. But when it’s messy which is 95% of the time I just feel exhausted, frustrated, stressed and unhappy. My issue is finding the time and energy to clean. I have an 8 year old, and 11 month old, and a dog who gets into things all the time. My husband is rarely home as his job requires him to be away a lot. And when he is home he usually just wants to relax. I can tell the mess is getting to him, he’s not as nice to me as he used to be and I’m sure he’s just upset with me for not keeping the place clean. I feel bad but I’m feeling burnt out and overwhelmed. Can anyone give me any tips and ideas for cleaning with children, getting rid of stuff and living a happier clean life? I’m also going back to work full time in January and super stressed about that as I will be even more busy and burnt out