First Time w F-Boy?

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Is it bad to have your first time with a so-called “fuckboi“? (I’m a Virgin btw)
Sometimes I just feel like “fuck it, virginity is just a social construct and whatnot” but idk bc he’s an ass YET IM STILL ATTRACTED TO HIM. ughhh
I just feel like what am I waiting for? not that I am ashamed of being a Virgin, not at all. It’s just like sometimes I think to myself just go for it. Is that bad? Should I care more?😅 
This sounds so dumb but does it make you feel any different after you lose your v card? 
I’m also really freaked out about this thing I heard how you absorb that person’s energy for 8 years and I’m not really down for that.   
Yea, please help

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You “absorb” their energy for 8 years?... 🤦🏼‍♀️
If you honestly think that’s a thing, you’re not ready to have sex.

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Lol you don’t absorb someone’s energy for 8 years 😆 not even a sponge does that 😝

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it really depends on your preference!!
i lost my vcard with a one night stand with a f boy at my school and i honestly don’t regret it. but if you are hesitant or unsure, give it a little more time before you make your decision. even though it is very much a “social construct” and somewhat taboo or whatever, you have to do what’s right for you and what’s comfortable! 
i hope this helped. if you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask me!

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I say wait until you are sure that guy you are going to be with is caring and loving to you. Well... that’s my opinion...
I toldly regret my first time. He would act like he care and loved me. Shit he even told me he wanted to marry me. ( I wanted to wait until I got married to have sex ) so from what I know now is that he just used me for sex. I remember him telling me he wanted his first to be his girlfriend only.... I was so dumb and young and didn’t know anything about how guys would act and think some pretty gross ass shit btw. 🤮 
My point is JUST BE CAREFUL AND READY TO HAVE SEX WHEN YOU FEEL READY AND MORE THEN SURE YOU WANT TO DO IT! Do what’s right for you & don’t get pressure in to it like I did. 
( side note: when you have sex with someone you have a soul tide to that person )

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Not necessarily a good or bad thing. The biggest factor you need to consider is your own emotional/mental feelings. I don't mean just about the concept of virginity itself either. Like you said he is a dick but you are attracted to him. Where the problem could lie is after you have sex or even sex multiple times you start having feelings for him but he is just using you for sex. Maybe he is the type of man who tells girls what they want to hear to keep having sex with them which also can complicate feelings etc. Also if he is the type of man that sleeps around you don't have to let him to control the sex still take things at your pace and use protection etc. If you think you will be able to handle the potential scenarios mentally and emotionally after the fact then sure be safe and go for it and hopefully you shouldn't regret it.

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It needs to be with someone you can trust 100% for safety reasons. So if he’s a jerk then it should be a no.

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I wouldn't say its exactly a bad thing, but it may be better to have your first time with someone you 100% know cares about you. Feeling used sucks, and I wouldn't want you to put yourself in that position unknowingly. You will not feel different after you lose it in a physical sense, but it can be emotional depending on who it was with, how you feel about it afterwards, etc. Also expect a little pain your first time, and always pee after sex so you don't get a uti. If you do decide to, make sure he's clean and ask if he has been tested and came up negative for stds. I know its awkward as hell, but your safety is a priority. If he gets mad about you asking or acts offended, GET AWAY FROM THAT PIECE OF TRASH, he should be understanding and just give you an answer without doing anything suspicious.

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