Pain during/after sex??

Question

So I admit my hubby and I have not had the best sex life since I’ve been pregnant. It has gone from once a week to more like once every two weeks:/ I feel bad but I’m so not in the mood and am in so much pain most of the time. Anyway, tonight we did the deed, and now I am having so much pelvic pain, it’s hard to move. My muscles are aching and I just feel like garbage! This happened the last couple of times, too. I’m not worried about preterm labor, but I’m just annoyed in general. I feel like I have to make myself have sex, then it’s awful and I feel terrible after. I feel bad cutting my husband off, but I don’t know if I can keep doing this. It causes me to resent the whole process. We have tried different positions, but everything just feels uncomfortable 😩 Anyone else so over sex? I feel so bad because I know we won’t be doing it for 6 weeks after baby, so I don’t want to cut hubby off yet:/

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If your husband loves you he wont care about being “cut off” for your comfort. If he csnt survive while your carrying his baby and after birth while you heal well idkk then. Ive been on pelvic rest this whole pregnancy and it sucks and wish it wasnt like that but my husband is very kind about the whole thing and it feels a lot better not having that pressure. Im sure if you talked to your husband hed understand and if he doesn’t then he sucks

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My husband and I have had sex maybe 2 or 3 times since I’ve been pregnant. Most of the time I just haven’t been in the mood for it.

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I’ve lost pretty much all desire. I think we have tried to have sex maybe 5 times total since being pregnant and it’s so uncomfortable for me we stop... I totally get it! For me it burns and just feels awful. My doctor said it’s completely normal and if we did decide to have sex to have more lube handy

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I have pains after sex where I cannot move at all but it’s only when I go on top of him. So I just have to roll off and lay there in fetal position until it goes away. I almost feels like a contraction where my lower belly gets super hard but it goes away like within a minute or less. However I am not on the same boat as you and the other women in the comments. We have sex like almost everyday😯 and it’s been like that throughout the whole pregnancy. We did go a week or 2 without doing it because he wasn’t in the mood but for some reason my sex drive had been off the roof lately😅🤷🏼‍♀️ but maybe try him getting you turned on before like rubbing your nipples, playing with you down there and kissing you to heat things up. That’s what bad helped us a lot !!

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I have the same type of pain. I generally don’t get in the mood to do anything anymore either. Even when he touches me in general I just get annoyed and aggravated. I try to explain to him that it hurts but I don’t think he fully just can grasp because maybe his first baby mother was able to have sex during her pregnancy. I’m not sure but I hate feeling that I’m depriving him of something that he wants and need. I just can’t seem to get in the mood..

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Yeah, I am struggling too. I was suggested by my midwife to ask my partner to warm me up a bit. Basically change the style of sex we used to have to be more compassionate to me. So lots more kissing and caressing and going slow at first, just because I dont feel much joy from it anymore. Getting loved on beforehand helps a bit. But otherwise I am down to once every 2ish weeks too. With the increased blood flow down there it doesnt feel like much (apparently some women might get the opp effect tho) and I feel sooo physically uncomfortable.

Pain during/after sex??

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