Husband never wants to have sex with me

My husband never wants to have sex with me. I don’t normally ever post but this has been for months now that his sex drive is suuuuuuuper low. I am 21 and he is 27 (5.5 years apart).

I am always the one to initiate sex and set up the room and dress in lingerie and light candles etc. we’ve only been married since March 2020. And I always respect him if he doesn’t want sex, I refuse to pressure him into it, but he almost always turns me down. We have sex about twice a month maximum and almost every time is very casual and not all that great. We haven’t ever had sex anywhere fun (only our bed) and he is opposed to other places. When we were dating he was very very wild in foreplay because we didn’t have sex until we got married. Now he is casual and vanilla. I don’t want to make him have sex but I’m so unhappy! :( please help me. I have talked with him many times. I try serious conversations and also tried to sext today (I’m in a different state for the weekend) and he was just being cute. I know he loves me and I love him but I never feel sexy or hot- just cute and adorable.

Does sex therapy work?? We have a marriage counselor but I don’t think she does sex. Im also thinking of buying Vitamin E for him (which he has agreed to) because it’s supposed to build sex drive. Someone help me!! I can’t do this for much longer!