Lazy husband.

My husband I have been married for 5 years. We have a 3 year old and a 1 year old. For the past 5 years I’ve done everything while my husband is lazy. Before I had kids I went to work a full day and came home to cook and clean the entire house. Since my son was born I’ve been a STAHM, which is great and I am very thankful. But my husband literally does the bare minimum around here. Every morning I wake up, get my kids breakfast, and clean the house until it’s spotless. I pick up again right before my husband gets home so he can take a couple of hours to relax in a clean house with out anyone bothering him. But after those couple of hours he does nothing and even on weekends I’m doing everything. I cook, clean, and take care of our kids. He even expects me to pick up after him and make him his food plates and bring it to him. All he does is sit on video games, the only time he gets up is when he wants a cigarette or to pee. I am OVER it. Even if I leave him home with the kids he barely moves off the couch and has our 3 year old grab things for him. He doesn’t pay any attention to the kids when I’m gone. No joke, I have come home to pee left on the floor, dirty diapers left open and on my table floor or coffee table, bottom cabinet doors pulled off (they are flimsy so my 3 year old can take it off easily), and wall paper ripped off the walls. I am beyond tired of feeling like I never get help and yes I have many times told him how I feel about all of this. Nothing changes, ever. We have had the same argument for 5 years. I am so angry about this.