PP sex after perineal tear 😩

Not going to get vulgar but my daughter is 11 weeks and I started having sex again at 6 weeks. I tore during labor and had stitches. the thing is, my pp apt was a telemed so no one actually checked my stitches or anything. I haven’t had any issues other than random sharp pains occasionally and hurts like hell during sex. Is it normal to still hurt?! I’m very uncomfortable and had to totally stop it yesterday. My poor husband acts like I don’t love him anymore but I have no desire for sex and when I even try to I’m basically miserable.