I NEED ADVICE PLEASE

So me and my dad were extremely close until I got my current boyfriend. My dad has always been the most important man in my life till I met this guy. When I met my boyfriend he became very important to me like my top priority because he has been sick for a long time and I love him a lot. My dad when I met this guy became extremely jealous of the fact that I love another man as much as him and that this man makes me extremely happy and I thought my dad would be happy for me. He has not at all been supportive of me and his relationship to the point to where when I went to talk to him he won’t even look at me let alone talk to me. Yesterday me and him got in a argument and he told me to pack my s*** and leave and this is not the first time he has told me this he has said it numerous times in the past. Now I am only 16 and he continues to tell me to pack up and leave but when I want to leave he forces me to stay and he threatens to call the cops if I leave. Yesterday during me and his argument he threatened to drop me right where I stood. Now he didn’t actually do it but me made the same threat time after time again causing me to cry because I was personally worried and scared and he talked about how as my parent he has the right to control my every move and choice that I make until I turn 18 and or move out. I don’t personally know how to handle this and my house is a extremely toxic environment but I am scared that if I go to stay with my boyfriend because his family will allow me and they told me that if I ever needed somewhere to stay their home was my home. Me and my boyfriend are scared that if I go to stay with him for a little bit and I want to go somewhere where I feel safe that my family will call the cops and since he is 18 they could charge him and he could go to jail and me nor him want that but we do not know what else to do and i don’t know how to get to a safe and organized environment where it is healthy and where I can feel like I have a little bit of respect and responsibility without me or him getting in trouble or him getting locked up. I have talked to my parents about graduating early and getting a job but they told me that is not my right to do so and that I am still a little kid and they control what I do and my choices. Please comment and help me find out what to do and how to do so.

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Was he a good father before the boyfriend? If he was..... I would have a heart to heart conversation and see what his sentiments are. Sometimes parents can see things that you in youth arnt able to. And if he has shown u love and support up to this point....... i think its wise to make sure its not simply jealousy versus him not liking the bf in your life for whatever reason?

Ka

Kaitlyn • Aug 13, 2020
Before the boyfriend me and him would talk every once in a blue moon and he would at least listen to me but he has always made the threats that he makes now and has always treated me this way but since my boyfriend has come around he has gotten worse. My father doesn’t like that my boyfriend is extremely sick and has been he doesn’t like that I want to spend as much time with him as possible. But I have tried to have my dad just meet him and he tells me that he will meet him when he feels that my boyfriend is important and isn’t a worthless bum. And me and him have gotten in arguments about that in the past but he tells me to shut up and if I try to finish my sentence he asks me if I don’t understand what shut up means then he gets in my face and when I try to talk he threatens to drop me right where I stand. Things have always been bad with my dad but since my boyfriend has came in my life he has gotten extremely worse.

Mo

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There is a Romeo and Juliette law that protects y’all’s relationship if you live in Texas and if you want to graduate early that is your choice they really don’t she a say in it because it’s your future

Mo

Molly • Aug 13, 2020
Your welcome I was in that same position when I was your age the exact same thing

Ka

Kaitlyn • Aug 13, 2020
Thank you very much