I've been with my ex for 5 years. Weird sentence I know. We aren't together but I live with him and we have one child who is 2 And another on the way. It's a weird situation

Anyways he has always helped my family out financially if he could which he has done allot and that has always been between him and whoever he left money to like when they would pay him back.

I'm a person who is probably overly caring and way to nice like I know I'm the black sheep but I try to be helpful and fit in. But it's gone to far because now they aren't paying him back and he's only being nice and helpful because I asked him to so I feel shitty because now he's in a tough situation. I'll never choose a man over my family but he is also my family even though we aren't together we live together and he is the father of my children and he supports me even though we have ups and downs.

He let my sister and her boyfriend move in a while back and they didn't pay him rent for as long as they were here although they agreed to the amount being charged. Everything only being verbal but you don't expect family to screw you over. They have also taken his tool box which was new and have lost pieces of it and haven't returned it. Even after all that and them moving out he let them borrow his car that is supposed to be the one I learn to drive in but he let them use it because my mom asked him if they could for baby appointments and him being nice for my sake let them . My sister then got a ticket and now won't even reply to him when he asks her when they will be able to pay him back for it or if they even still are using his car.

He works two jobs supports us as well as his daughter from a previous relationship and we kind of live week to week like being able to afford diapers we don't have anything for our child that's almost here.

It's not like my sister is a single mom she has a boyfriend who has a job but refused to go in when they lived here . My ex has even offered him jobs that pay good money. If I ask my mom if she can talk to my sister about when they are going to pay my mom kind of guilt trips me . I don't want to stress her out with everything going on with her medically but I'm at a point where I'm done helping and not being respected it's not respect for me it's the lack of it for the guy who has helped for years on my behalf. I'm stuck between being nice and trying to fit I in with my family and being "a bitch" and telling them he can't help with anything anyone if they don't pay him back.I don't want to lose my family though