TW - Abortion. How do you support someone going through abortion?

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Hi all, thanks for reading. 
I have a person very close to me who is currently going through the process of an abortion. She is 21 and her partner is 23, abortion is completely legal and supported in our state. She has not told anyone else aside from me and her partner and has just finished the process of having the product removed. 
She isn’t ready for a child and either is he but she is quite upset at the moment after seeing the ultrasound etc. I completely understand that. 
My question is how do I support someone going through this? I am at a a loss as I don’t know what I can do do be supportive and make her feel even the slightest bit better. I don’t know what to do or say. Does anyone have any advice?

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When my sister had an abortion a long time ago, even though shes never wanted kids and was 100% sure of her choice, she was still sad in a way. She was also a little embarrassed. She laid in bed for like a week just processing the whole thing.
So if you're friend is similar at all, and you feel comfortable visiting her during Covid- I'd go to her house with her favorite food, some comfort movies, and a little 'care package' of some of her favorite snacks, maybe a soft blanket/sweater/slippers/ect, and maybe a stuffed animal. And then id just hang out with her. 
My sister still has her stuffed animal that my parents got her afterwards, and it's been over 8 years now. Because even though you may not want the baby, you still grieve in a way and I guess having a symbolic thing can be nice? 
However, some people just want space and to be left alone and to essentially just want it to be done and forgotten. So it really just depends on your friend and your relationship with her on how you should go about this

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Just be there to listen to her and comfort her

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Be there for her. I've been through it and friends of mine too and the only thing you need to do is let her know she can continue to trust you and  that you are there for her. Thats it.

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Be there for her. Don’t pressure her to talk, and respect if she needs space or distance for a while.

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Let her talk and just listen. Encourage her to talk to a therapist before doing anything and really weigh out her options so she can either be 100% in or out

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Let her know you’re always there if she feels comfortable talking about it, but also carry on like normal, but if she does open up then validate her feelings and listen. 
Sometimes it’s nice just to have company to get your mind off of things, sometimes you just want someone to recognize your pain and stop trying to sweep it under the rug. That’s why it’s good to leave the door open.

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Be a shoulder to lean on and to comfort her. Don’t pressure her with your opinion or what you would have done just be a listener and a girl  emotional support. This is be something that will always be apart of her and maybe months down the line she may still need to talk about it.

TW - Abortion. How do you support someone going through abortion?

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