To start off im very happy because i did <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> and so far everything is good and i am 7w1d. I thank god for helping me and being with me through all of this without his faith i was not going to be able to manage this very long journey that hasn’t yet ended.

So heres the story, randomly my old best friend has been reaching out to me. I say old best friend because we were really close back when we were 13 till our early twenties. The reason for not being so close anymore was because she had her first kid when she was 24, so me thinking that she shes my best friend she was going to put me as the god mother but she didn’t. I was hurt. She put some girl i never met but they seem to have been friends since HS and i know she did it because she had a kid and i didn’t. Anyways i went to his first bday party and she was there and when it was time to take pics they called me up as the “aunt” felt so weird and i know she felt it too. Anyways after that i stopped attending anything and we just started to talk even less we knew about eachothers things because of what we post on social media. Well a little before this i lost my first pregnancy and she knew about it because when i found out i was pregnant i called her first i guess i wanted to have that bond with her again and i thought maybe being a mother too will bring us closer again. Well i lost the baby and the friendship too.

Fast forward to now. She has been texting me and invited herself to my house a weekend i agreed to but was going to cancel, luckily she cancelled first. Then she did it again the following weekend which is this sat and i canceled on her yesterday. Idk im at a stage of my pregnancy where i dont want to tell anyone and i have morning sickness and don’t want to be bothered all i want to do is rest.

So today she’s texting me, my bothers girls is going to have a baby so she text me “congrats you’re going to be an aunt”. I was like yeah thanks. Then she replies “he’s having all your babies” and she went on by fixing saying “they all look like you” and then she asked if im still trying and that when i least expect it im going to have twins 🤦🏻‍♀️. I love her and she will always be my friend but im so over these comments.

Moral of the story.

This is for all those women that don’t have fertility problems.

Please stop making comments like these:

“Stop thinking about it and it would happen”

“When the timing is right it will happen”

“Maybe you’re not having enough sex”

“Omg when are you going to have kids”

“Time is ticking you guys been together for long enough”

“Your kids are not going to have who to play with”

“You can always adopt”

Please educate yourself, not all of us can just have sex and have a baby. And trust me we didn’t ask for this either. Oh how we wish we could. You don’t know no ones struggle so stop being so insensitive.

Im done.