How to check for dilation at home?

So my 37 week appointment was cancelled and I’m not sure if I’m going to have an appointment next week either since my doctors office caught fire. So I might be stuck till she’s on her way or if I have issues. I was told to go to the hospital this morning to check to see if I’m dilating I did and they informed me they don’t do that sooooo I’m stuck in a limbo. I’ve had some inconsistent contractions and a lot of pressure. She’s also dropped A LOT. I’ve lost some of my mucus plug but haven’t had the bloody show. I have no idea how close I am to delivering nor if I’m dilating yet. So my question is how do I check to see if I’m dilating? Or have my husband check to see? Since the hospital basically said to not come back till I’m in active labor. I googled it and I still am unsure of how to check.