I really need advice

So I’ve been seeing/talking to this guy for about a year and 9 months and I’m a little confused about where things are going. We text everyday but have short convos and I see him one to three times a week for a few hours. A few months ago I felt like I should start looking for something new. I knew from the beginning that he didn’t want to be in a relationship and I didn’t either but I was finally ready for one. I knew he still wasn’t there so I tried to end things but after a few talks he changed my mind because he claims to really like me. I told him that I completely understand him not being ready for a relationship and I was very willing to let him go because I didn’t want to force him into anything he didn’t want but he said he didn’t want to lose me. So I stayed. I wasn’t really happy with where we were so I started talking to someone else and I eventually told him. He started putting in a lot of effort to try and keep me happy only when he found out I was trying to leave him for someone else. He would text and call me everyday and try to see me everyday but that ended quickly after I chose him again. I really like him and he claims to feel the same about me but he’s not willing to be in a relationship and Idk what to do. Any advice?