Due in 18 days... but my mom tho..

I am an only child. I was left alone to entertain myself for the majority of my life. More of a "lonely only" situation instead of the "spoiled only child" situation most people assume. Needless to say I'm used to my own space and only talking to my mother once a month or so.

I had NO IDEA that just getting pregnant would mean that my mom would be on me like white on rice. And I'm OVER IT!! Baby isnt even here yet for crying out loud!

My mom came over last Sunday night, stayed the night and helped me meal prep all day Monday and Tuesday. Then Wednesday I drove to see my grandma and my mom showed up to see me. Then on Thursday I had a midwife appointment and she came so she could meet the midwives and whatnot.

I tried telling her that i didnt want her atvthe birthing center because this is between me and my husband. She flipped her lid about it so im now allowing her to go but only be in the waiting room. Plus my MIL "feels better" knowing my mom will be there.. like she's a medical professional or something.

She casually said that after my daughter is born she will be at my house "for at least a week" and I shot that shit down soo fast. I've been saying for months that I want no visitors for the first 2 weeks while my husband takes off so he and I can get a handle on parenting. Then when he goes back to work she can come over a day to help or something.

Then at 10 am this morning while I was trying to take a nap (I had a rough night last night), she called me 3 times in a row because she hadn't heard from me and she was worried...

Lady. It hasnt even been 3 days! Back up.

And just now she called me because her and her roommate got into a fight and she said "maybe ill move out there to be closer to you".

She only lives 45 minutes away and that isn't enough as it is!!

Yall I just can't. I get that I'm her only kid and this is her first grandkid but this isn't about her! I dont even feel like its about me. This is a new family in the making with only myself, my husband, and our baby. Shes single and lonely and now unemployed (thanks a lot covid), but shes got to recognize these boundaries I've put up.

I don't want to get hostile and mean but shes got to leave me alone. Tomorrow my entire family is going to my grandmas for a labor day pool party and I'm not going because I need space from my mom.