Arguing infront of LO?

Question

What are your thoughts of arguing or disagreements infront of LO? Have you and your hubby experienced this?
We had a rough morning, actually a rough couple weeks with my husband's demanding work schedule and him working loads of overtime. It was his first night off last night since 4 weeks ago. 
We had a nice night but we both woke up tired, my husband works nights so he was tossing and turning all night, I was up multiple times because of him getting in and out of bed. 
Our fight started because my husband asked what was wrong as soon as I woke up because apparently I looked upset? I said oh nothing, I'm fine, just a little tired. This was within 2 minutes of waking up. And my husband just lost it and was so upset because I was tired on his day off. I'm also on my period so my back is killing me, I mentioned it once and he flipped out once again. He said I ruined his day off because I woke up tired (after my coffee I was perfectly fine and wide awake) and that my back hurt because of my period. 
After typing this, it sounds incredibly stupid. We went for a walk with our dog and LO, the whole time my husband was calling me names and telling me to check myself and stop complaining about being tired or not feeling well. I said I was tired once and mentioned my back hurt once, I didn't make a big deal out of it, he did. 
We weren't yelling at all but my husband said some hurtful and inappropriate things to me infront of our son. 
My son is napping and I just feel like an awful mom. I asked my husband multiple times to stop fighting and arguing, I wanted to make sure my son was happy and having a good morning. I said we can talk about it when he naps but he proceeded to argue. His ego got in the way. 
This doesn't happen often, or at all in front of our son. So I feel awful he witnessed it.

Answer

Arguments happen. I actually think it’s important that kids see that healthy relationships can have arguments and still be ok. It can be beneficial for them to see that there is a healthy and fair way to disagree and to come to a resolution. They can take these learned behaviors along with them in life. As long as the arguments are kid friendly. 
What concerns me is that your husband was calling you names, and was trying to make you feel guilty for being tired and sore. This is toxic. I would not want my child to see that. Nor would i allow my husband to say those things to me.

Answer

Your husband should never call you names. Ever. Or make you feel bad for being human. Whether this is in front of your son or not, but he definitely shouldn’t in front of your son. I’m not sure how he feels it’s ok to do that, he’s a grown man, not a playground bully. I hope you told him how you feel and that he should never speak to you that way again.

Answer

Don’t beat yourself up, marriage is hard! I also feel so guilty when we argue in front of our daughter. We never call each other names or anything like that at all, but having a child and being on lockdown have put a lot of stress on our relationship. We have talked about it many times and obviously try to talk once she’s in bed, but unfortunately it doesn’t always work like this. And its often about silly little things too.  
The only thing that really helps me is taking a step back and cooling off in another room and just picking up the conversation at another time. 
I just wanted to add you are entitled to feel tired/sad/sick and whatever you are feeling. You are always allowed to talk about it to your husband when you are feeling down. That’s a healthy and normal part of any relationship and he shouldn’t make you feel bad about it.

Arguing infront of LO?

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