Is it really this hard?

I know there are seasons of more difficult times. But things have been so hard. I have 2 toddlers almost due with number 3. I have a full time working husband. And absolutely no help at all i mean besides my husband. Who is great but can only do so much working over 40 hours a week.

This dishes never end the laundry never ends cleaning is a constant but things still feel cluttered. I have to constantly battle with keeping up with the house or getting time with my kids. They need me 24/7 and they are amazing I love being able to sit down and play with them but when I cant they become very sad and even behave differently. My husband and I havent been kid free together in literally years because we have no trustworthy people to care for the kids. We don't use TV or computers so there isn't much break besides naps each day. I feel like some times I have it all together then something falls out of line or I get overly tired and then it is SO hard to get back into the swing of things and things pile up! I am seriously considering getting a mother's helper or something someone who can come help me! But I feel a bit defeated when I consider this. Like is that pathetic or even dramatic? I'm curious to see what other moms do? If you all get overwhelmed like this and how you choose to handle it. I just handle it and move from day to day but the mom guilt it piling and life is starting to feel very chaotic.

Thanks!