Is this classic narcissism ?

Can someone help me figure this out. The other day, I was told by my boyfriend that he wanted spaghetti. I had felt bad because he was hungry. He went upstairs and fell asleep. I waited an hour because I was letting him sleep. and then started boiling the water. Right as the water was boiling he came down. Looked at it and said “I don’t want it.” I shut it off and about 15-20 minutes later I was in the living room on the carpet. He was sitting on the couch. I was looking away. He said you know?I’m gunna make myself spaghetti. And I looked at him with this face. And it’s like he enjoyed upsetting me. So he went on to boil the water again and make it all up. He was so proud, showed it to me. Asked me if I wanted it. I said no. He gave me a bowl anyway and I didn’t eat it. I set it on the counter and he walks out and says well I guess my food wasn’t good then huh. Back to today. We were sitting on the couch watching some show. We had our baby on the couch with us because she had woken up. It’s probly 12:30. He started playing with her and getting loud making really loud noises. I told him to stop so he didn’t wake up the kids upstairs. He kept doing it. And I got mad and told him to seriously stop. He got up. Called me a bore and went out to have the rest of his cigarette. He came back in and said go ahead go have yours. So I went to do it. As I am having it, our other child started crying upstairs. He said “I am not helping him because you made me mad.” Why would he tell me I could go have my smoke, but when my child started waking up he refused to help him? I had to put my cigarette out. I go upstairs and get him some milk. I came back down and he is sitting on the couch. And was listening to him cry. All because I made him mad by telling him to stop yelling? So I said what is wrong with you? And the blame shift began. Somehow it is my fault. What is this called? I refuse to ask myself if I’m the crazy one. This is just two examples.