Am I wrong?!?

Idk if I’m just drunk and crazy but my man and I have been together for 5 months, we just finished having sex and I felt like he took a video without my consent so I asked to go through his phone(which in 5 months I’ve never gone through even though he goes through mine all the time) and he wouldn’t let me he snatched his phone did something then gave it back so i went in his recently deleted photos I didn’t find anything from right now but I found oldddd booty pics of mine he sent to himself without me knowing and even better a video of us fucking from 29 days ago that I neverrr knew was taken Bc I would never allow a video of me having sex to be taken because of how self conscious I am he’s now claiming it’s all Bc he was drunk when he took it and i can’t be mad Bc he wasn’t sober when he did it but I still feel so mad and violated am I wrong ?