Help me with ur chore list for the sake of my marriage

My husband of 10 yrs has been expressing his unhappiness and is sounding like he’s over this relationship. I am a FTM dealing with a 2 year old, ever since we had the baby our relationship has taken a strain. My attention for the last 2 years has been on my baby, then myself when I slipped into a depression, and he really has been patient and took a backseat on the priority list. One thing he has always hated is my lack of cleanliness. 1. Depression but 2. I never was instilled those values. I grew up in a nasty poor house that was always dirty and I literally grew blind to it. My mom never cleaned nor made me clean. Well I guess that followed me into adulthood and escalated when I had a kid. Now here I am, trying to learn how to keep a clean house. Because I am literally BLIND to dirt and need to be told it’s there 😩😩😩 Any tips u have, what I should clean every day every other day every week every month, I would so appreciate ur time ❤️