My mother and law doesn't like me. But she says she does and is manipulating and passive aggressive. Her kids have learned to deal with her and think its ok to be treated like that. So we were trying to go to the beach but it was really windy and cold so the plans were changed. My fiance and I have a 1 year old and we didn't think it was the best for him. But we still wanted to go to dinner. She kept trying to convince him to go to the beach. I'm pretty sure she spent money on snacks and wine and maybe she just wanted to go to the beach. And she kept pushing and not respecting his reasoning and how he felt. They hung up and she called her daughter and stressed her out. So then she called him and asked about the beach and tried to convince him and he still said no. They ended up getting in a huge argument. Their parents are divorced so the dad came to pick us up. When we got to dinner. The sister was mad and pretended we weren't there and even made her teenage kids act the same. I didn't care and I just said hello. She was mad at him and so she let her gourd down. Anyways, the mom can be passive aggressive and we are trying to be peaceful. I've tried to fix things with her but it didn't work. So the dad tried to force us to interact by having her sit next to me . Which bothered me too because you can't force something and we were all taking as a group. But she then started talking about how sick her cousin is but got passive and started saying how his daughter is so annoying because she won't let things go because her family is very direct. Now what she's trying to say is. I think you're fiance is holding a grudge on me and doesn't let me manipulate her like I used to and I'm "direct" and she doesn't like it. No lady, there's a difference with being direct and rude and not liking that people don't agree with you or that you say that you hurt their feelings. So I just went to the restroom and calmed down and just went back and just pretended I was fine. It bothers me because everything was fine. She was just mad because her son didn't listen to her about the beach . Which I heard was a horrible experience because his mom,sister and her kids went anyways. And even the dad says that she's having trouble letting her little boy go and that she's just like that and to accept that she's rude. This family can be so draining and toxic and I'm trying but sometimes I can't.