Pregnancy loss and faith?

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I just want to know how/why people tend to become more religious or cling to their faith/god when they’ve suffered a miscarriage/stillbirth/etc??
I’ve had 3 miscarriages in my life. 5/23/2016- 10 weeks we had seen an ultrasound with healthy baby’s heartbeat. 3/30/2018 should’ve been 6 weeks-ultrasound showed no baby/heartbeat. 11/2/2020- 11 weeks saw baby’s heartbeat twice at 8 and 9 weeks. 
I just don’t understand how anyone can suffer something so terrible and still have such faith in a “loving” god who would allow something like this to happen to them. 
*this is not meant to be an argument or bashing anyone. I am angry at the entire world and am genuinely curious how people can be so forgiving and still be religious after stuff like this.
**EDIT
to say that I am not religious. I was raised in church, I was very much brought up believing in god and my family is still big on religion. I have nothing against anyone choosing however they choose to live their lives. Just wanted others’ opinions. ❤️ thank you!

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People cling to God more when they need help. It's easy to forget how much we depend on God when everything is going well. 
While I was miscarrying, I definitely pulled out my bible more and prayed more! I trust God even more now. 🙏

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No god is there when thousands of children are dying every second of every day. It’s baffling that anyone in this day and age can believe in an omnipotent being that watches children suffer. Religion and belief in god is archaic and holding us back. Miscarriages are unfortunately a part of nature.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I feel the same. I grew up going to church, but since becoming an adult, I’ve not gone frequently and my beliefs have changed especially since I lost my daughter at 20 weeks. One of my mom’s church friends said something like “ God knows best”. This absolutely infuriated me. How could it possibly be the best thing for me to loose my daughter and have to go through so much pain? 
My cousins who are very religious, take comfort in religion. They feel they can direct their anger towards situations like loosing a child at God.
I still feel like in a sense this is my fault and I must in some way being punished for something I’ve done wrong. I still feel like there has to have been something I did wrong. I wish I could feel the same as my cousins and allow someone to take away this pain and anger. I guess that is why some people turn to religion after miscarriage.

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I wonder the same thing. I suffered a miscarriage at 17w1d in June and I feel this way often. My water broke prematurely and the whole way to the hospital(had to drive myself) I prayed and prayed i was wrong and it wasn’t my water and that my baby would be okay. I feel like not only did my body let me down but he did too. I was raised in church and my grandfather and uncle are both pastors. And when they asked me about who I was getting to preach my baby’s memorial I flipped. Ohhh and the responses I got from people after I announced our loss.. the “it’ll happen in gods time” and “god doesn’t make mistakes”. I cussed so many people out over that. It’s like how can you say that or think that when their child just died.. I’ll never understand.

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I imagine it's because it gives them a way to feel less angry. Especially since miscarriage often involves fear that your body somehow failed, it alleviates guilt and anger. Religious people also tend to have a much bigger team of support behind them, either real or implied, which can be incredibly comforting.
I'm not religious at all, so the anger was hell to deal with for awhile. I still have a lot of issues with it and it's been months. Were looking into getting a punching bag for the basement. 
I hope you can find your way through the anger. It's normal, but it still sucks so bad. ♥️

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I can understand and relate to this. I too was angry after two miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy. I questioned God and why this could happen? But I chose to show God my vulnerability and desperately pray to him. I prayed and I prayed. I didn't like it, i was so badly hurting, but I understood it was all part of a bigger plan and gods timing for our family. When I got pregnant again as you can imagine I was faced with fear. So instead of doing anything else, I put a cross on what will be my baby's door and I was on my knees every morning and night praying for this baby. I'm 18 weeks today and I still pray every morning and night. I pray in hope and gratitude and I hope you can find there will be peace and answered prayers for you too. Always keep hope in your heart.

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I’m so sorry for your losses. I will tell you my opinion and my story. I trust my God because he has gave me miracles through out my life. Multiple miracles. I had 4 healthy babies and we lost our fifth around 9 weeks. I thanked God and clinged to my faith because I know God had a reason to take my baby. I know there was something wrong genetically with my baby most likely. I’m now pregnant again with a healthy baby. A little girl. I know my God always has a plan. He’s never failed me. I will not force my religion on anyone but I will say that if your questioning God and your Faith, totally open your heart and pray. He has the power to show you He is God and show you He is for you and not against you.

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I know how much it hurts. It gives me comfort to know that my baby is in Heaven and we’ll be reunited some day.

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