Am I over reacting?
Quick backstory, me (22F) and my SO (24M) have been together for almost 7 years. We started dating when I was 15, and ended up having a son together when I was 18. In the beginning, it was extremely toxic but I was too young and dumb to realize it. By the time I realized how toxic our relationship was, we were about 4 years into the relationship. I tried to leave a couple times, but always felt bad and went back. The past couple years he has definitely calmed down a lot with his controlling behaviors, however every now and then it rears its ugly head.
Two days ago, we got into an argument when I got home from work. It was about a couple things, but it was based around me posting a picture of me and my dad on Facebook for that #thisismydad trend. There was a couple things he found wrong with this.
1. I dont post pictures with him enough but ill post a picture with my dad and about 2 weeks ago I posted a picture with two of my friends. I admit I dont post a lot of pictures with him, but my defense is that he basically never allowed me to post a picture that didn't include him for the first couple of years of our relationship so I just dont have the want or need to post a picture with him, and also he holds this standard over my head that I have to post pictures with him on my profile, but he doesnt have to post any with me? (Honestly don't care and never did, its just the double standard about it that pisses me off)
2. One of my coworkers commented on it saying how my dad and my son are "twins!". For whatever reason, it annoys him that my son could look like anyone but him or I.
3. A couple guys liked the picture. He has always had this problem. THIS is where the "am I overreacting" comes into play. One of these guys that liked the picture is one of our neighbors sons, who is around out age, maybe a little older? While we were arguing about this, he goes into our bedroom and pulls out his gun (he bought this gun a couple of months ago), but not in a threatening way. He just takes his gun out of the closet, brings it into the room I am sitting in, and says "yeah and if I see him pull up in front of the neighbors house, ill be walking up to him like this" and I responded "yeah and he'll probably laugh in your face for being so offended over liking somebody's picture." He had a joking tone to him, so I didn't think much of it at the time. Today I just started thinking about it and realized how fucked up that actually is. Why would he take out his gun while we are in the middle of an argument? This wasn't a "screaming and hitting" kind of argument either, just some voices raised and me becoming increasingly annoyed. Hes never physically hurt me so I dont think he would ever do something to threaten me in that way, but just the fact that he did that is not sitting right with me today. This is almost like the icing on the cake to get me and my son out of this relationship.
I'm just afraid I may be overreacting and looking for a reason to be able to leave.
I plan on leaving soon, I'm just trying to get everything planned so I can finally do it.
I didnt expect this to be so long, so if you're still reading, thanks. Id love to hear some advice on this.
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