TTC with PCOS

I’ve been told for years that I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant or I would have a really high miscarriage rate. I’ve been married for almost 10 years and didn’t want children until this year. It’s been almost 8 months of TTC and nothing.

Last week, I went to a new family doctor after not going for years. To clarify, I go to my yearly checkups with an OBGYN and urgent care if I have the flu or something but no regular doctor on file. Insurance needed a wellness check so I found a new doctor. He’s amazing. My husband also goes to him.

Anyways, I was giving him a run down of my life, PCOS, etc. Did some blood tests because I have nodules on my Thyroid. Everything comes back fine ( he didn’t test PCOS related hormones). He mentioned giving me an option of Metformin, which I don’t really want to take and asked him for more information. Specifically if it’s safe for TTC.

He asked if we were TTC and I said yes. Not to the point where I’m pushing myself with tracking and all that but yes. Told him how long and asked about Clomid or something else to help. Or maybe just go back to my OBGYN next month to get her help.

He told me I’ve given him no reason to believe I couldn’t get pregnant on my own. He also said it’s probably an issue with my husband and wants him to get checked. He told me the other doctor was wrong and I shouldn’t have an issue since my cycle is regular. Other than stress and being plus size, he said I have no issues. He said, relax, drop 10 lbs and you’ll be surprised.

Suddenly, I’m over here with hope. Am I crazy? I see so many people struggling and there’s this dr telling me it’s not that hard? Please help me understand because I have years of “don’t bother trying without medical intervention” ingrained into my head.

Also, can someone give me a heads up if you can have pregnancy symptoms and negative tests? Because twice this year I’ve thought I was pregnant and nothing. And I’m serious when I say I thought I was pregnant. I’ve literally cried at the stupidest things (which is weird bc I really don’t get emotional or cry) and feel crappy and nauseated all the time. Especially right now. August was the last time this happened and I ended up having the worst period of my life. This month has been harder emotionally, I’m more tender, so nauseated, burning alive, etc. I’m supposed to start in 1-2 days, usually on point with my tracking, and I got a negative test yesterday. I feel like I’m going crazy right now. Am I the only one?