My hubs just wrecked my day-just venting

So, we woke up, did stockings and I made breakfast. We are together as a family. I’m on call for work and had to take care of an issue but tried to just stay positive and not let it ruin my joy. I’m 21 weeks pregnant today and just want to enjoy the holiday.

I sat next to my husband after breakfast and said ‘are you happy?’ And he said he had a little headache, so being cute, I whispered it instead. And he had to go an say ‘I’d be happy if my wife started having sex with me again’

I just walked away and started crying. We have tried multiple times since I’ve been pregnant and I am just way too engorged or swollen down there and it’s so painful I cry and we stop. I thought after the last time and me telling him the doctor said there’s really nothing we can do, that this just happens sometimes to women that he would stop bringing it up. I also told him I don’t want to build up these memories of him hurting me. I think it will make post pregnancy sex even harder from an emotional standpoint.

And I just don’t like how he said it either,

Like I’m purposefully keeping sex from him for no reason. I would if I could. But I will not go through torture so he can have sex. Only one traumatic experience will include my vagina and that will be pushing this baby out of it!