THE IN LAWS

So when i met my in laws they were super sweet ! Always doing things for us and seemed so caring prayed and thanked God for having brought me in their lives you get the point well we get married my sister in law basically when helping with the wedding warns me about her parents to which i thought ok the sister must be like the chaotic drama one right we all have one ... talking about how if i don't tell them no they will walk all over me ect ect... took no mind to this until right after our wedding i mean right after! During dinner did they get so bizzar went from a loving christian family to some outter limits type situation pushing boundaries, getting tipsy and making underhanded comments. I blew it off to alchohol as i never seen the behavior before . They were at our house every single week multiple times a week un- announced to which this got very old even forcing us to answer the door pulling my husband from 11 days of work just sitting down with us for supper and making him come outside for 10 dollars ? Eventually my husband and i had a talk like listen they need to call first this is out of hand and seeing them mutiple times a week isn't something I'm into with anyone let alone critical boundry pushers . We finally after having them bang on our doors and windows call the kids my husband stepped up and said something which let to tons of gaslighting from them to which i tried to help talk my husband through as it was clear what they were doing . Saying anything hurtful and untrue they could to get things they wanted from him or us not once apologizing for continuing to come over like that without asking after asking several nice times to please do so . I mean they walk in and critique everything from the paint we picked the plants we planted to how we should do this and that .... my husband said well you're just the one with the problem after this last dispute after he clearly was upset about all the crap they do ... but i guess it is my fault ? Said if i had it my way he'd never see his family again ? Instead of me being his family also we are trying for a baby .... i said well yeah i want to see them less because they are so unpleasant they even brought gifts over and made it a point to give everyone a gift but me ! Lol mind you I've never said a word unkind to them and any issues we have with them my husband handles it ... so they make passive agreesive remarks then leave .. great whatever . But i mean am i wrong for wanting him to let go of mommy and daddy a little to be my family and husband and be my United front not their baby son smh ... he told me i don't need to get upset about all the stuff they say and do sure ... i said let me have my family attack you constantly from everything you like or want to do and treat you the same way see how you like it .. he said well i wouldn't care haahhah my husband is litterally a baby though you can make one comment he doesn't like and you'll be his worst enemy guess he learned some of the in laws tricks ....