Sex with new husband

So, I am a newlywed and my husband has over time begun to ignore my sexual needs.

I haven't had an orgasm in weeks, (maybe longer) and last time I did I gave it to myself using unwanted 'visual aids'. I'm depressed. I just gave him a powerful cum where he was blessing God and everything. He thanked me and went to sleep.

I'm so hurt, unsatisfied, and lonely. I'm glad he was able to enjoy without porn,(our new faith forbids it and we are comfortable giving it up) but once again I am left deprived.

I don't know what to do and I am at the end of my rope. I've asked him, talked, begged, fussed, cried, threatened, prayed, everything...I'm ready to talk to a pastor about this stuff. I am ready to beat his azz or stop sleeping beside him all together.

My mind is wandering to porn and even more dangerous places and he doesn't seem to care or he is daring me to do something. I'm fed up with the excuses. If he wanted me to orgasm he would have been done it by now...

So a little background. We both have physical disabilities that makes sex a little hard (lol puns) but not impossible.

I give him oral or a handy when I can't give him full on intercourse. He can't mount me like he used to because of a bad back but there are other ways to please me. He barely gives me foreplay and I've asked many many times. Now he exclusively gets to cum and I am left hot and bothered. Every time. He used to be a great lover but now nothing....

Advice please.