“You don’t love me “

So tonight we were at some family members for dinner.After we ate they started smoking (they have one room in the house where they can smoke) so me and my little guy went into other room (he is almost one year old). And in other room there was two more kids they are older 10 and 7 I think.But I was sitting almost entire time with my son and keeping eye on them.My husband came once into the room and before that I texted him to bring me water he didn’t hear phone.And honestly I was mad he couldn’t come to watch him so I could go to sit with them so basically to rotate.I told him “good you remembered that we are here you know you could sit here now”

Him “I can’t I’m drinking”

Me”dude I don’t care if you are drinking you are his dad you should watch him”

Him “okay then go there now”

Me”nope go enjoy your night we (me and my son) will go home soon”

Half hour pass by and his SIL is texting me to come there they are not smoking and they opened windows for fresh air.I came and didn’t even sit for 5 minutes someone lit the cigarette and I just left the room.Turned my car to get warmer took my son and my stuff and said goodbye to them.

My bil was “yeah it would be the same if you are in the living room or in your apartment” I said yes and baby wants to sleep.

Also while packing my stuff I heard my SIL saying while me and my husband were going around (we didn’t) she was babysitting him (only time she is babysitting it is when I need to go to store because I don’t want to bring him with me.

So we are going towards the car my husband is coming behind me so he could say goodbye.

Him”you’re mad” my eyes tearing I kissed him and went into car.He kissed baby and came to front to kiss me and said “uh you don’t love me anymore” I was “dude please stop” and I started driving.

I came home and I started crying I I promise to my self that no one ever will babysit him not grandparents his uncle aunts no one.

I got home I didn’t get text am I home nothing and I didn’t text either.And when he gets sober we will have serious conversation.Im tired of this crap.

Edit: problem is that he came hour after I left room for the first time and when I told him he should watch baby he said no.After my comment on that no he then agreed to watch him and I don’t want to beg him to be with his son and because of that I left.

Should I beg him to watch his child so I could see other friends?

Thank you all but even if this is a tantrum you could be nicer with your words.There is always nicer way to tell someone is in fault.