Who planned your baby shower?

So my mom is getting ready to start planning my baby shower. I am very close with my mom and my mother in law. This baby is our miracle and we’ve been waiting forever to plan a shower like this so I’m super excited. However, it always seems like there has to be some type of drama. If I spend any amount of time with my mother in law my mom goes “you love her more than me” totally not true but gives you an idea of how my mom can be lol. I am high risk and suffer from a short cervix so I may go earlier than planned so I wanted to do it about a month before my due date. Since it’s covid we picked a club my parents are members of that display hot rods inside - super nifty inside plus there’s huge garage bays to open for ventilation (covid - winning) I picked the hot rod theme (we’re having a boy) and the venue and told my mom she could reach out to my mother in law & sister in law who are excited to help her plan.

Meanwhile my dad sends me a text asking what the date is, how many people and who’s paying for it... I don’t know the answer to any of these questions since my mom said her and my mother in law were taking everything. I asked my mom to reach out her and she’s being weird about it saying it’ll be awkward. Now I’m just bummed because it puts me in the middle of a weird situation since it’s a shower in my honor. I don’t want to be dictating to anyone what to do but she expects my mother in law to compensate money wise but won’t speak to her about it since she finds it awkward. My mother in law would gladly pitch in financially. My mom is a bit of a drama queen, love her to death but she’s a bit much sometimes LOL.

She said this is why families do things separately. She’s the only one being weird about it. Meanwhile my only ask was to not have this be stressful since my pregnancy has been stressful enough. I’m not trying to sound like a brat I guess I’m just trying to understand why she’s gotta be like this. They had 2 different showers for our wedding too and it was a lot and they complained about having to attend two. I figured since they’re both grandmom they could handle this. Ughh sorry - I needed to vent.