Is this okay in a marriage? MEN AND WOMEN WELCOME TO ANSWER!

So, my man and I have been married for two years now. He is a very disciplined person and so am I. We both work very hard and achieve goals together! However, he is sometimes very very judgmental towards myself. He wakes up without an alarm at 6.00AM everyday. I love to wake up at 8.00AM and start my day. Since we live in one room apartment he always judges me for being lazy because I don’t wake up with him. I go to bed early but if i wake up that early I get tired and sleep some time during the day. Today he had an argument because I got very tired and slept until 7.40AM and did not wake up with him when he pleases. I get so tired hearing him complain about every little thing that I do. He criticizes the fact that I love designer clothes and have them, he tells me that one day he will throw them all away without my consent. He says that If he is not tired then I cannot be more tired than he is. He even tells me that he doesn’t like my gestures that express “laziness” to him. I feel like he wants me changed for who he wants. I never critique but love him and his passions! Honestly, I feel very sad that he always acts like a parent towards me. He later says that I need to find a “daddy” that will handle me. That makes me so upset. He controls and critiques all my steps and the only time when I’m happy is when he is not home and I can be myself!

P.S I spoke to him million times, he laughs it off and says that he is right.

Help! I don’t want a divorce. He won’t go to therapy either because he says irsa shame.