So my SO a and I have shared credit cards. Or should I say I have him as an authorized user on a couple of my credit cards, maybe 4 or so. For Christmas, he bought me a sous vide (with my credit card). It’s very popular and expensive. Now I’m grateful for the gift but that’s not something I’d ever use nor does it catch my attention. His reasoning was that I’ll use it and cook for him. So realistically it was a gift for me to him. I’m not sure how much it cost, I don’t want to know. I could easily log on to my credit card statement and see but I don’t want to. Prior to this we bought a KitchenAid mixer stand for Black Friday because it was on a good sale (normally $500, was at $200). I paid it all off. For my birthday (couple weeks ago) he didn’t get me anything. Instead I had to go out and buy myself a cake, I even bought him a dole float (ON MY BIRTHDAY!!). The sous vide he hasn’t made a single payment for. I’m pretty much paying for it. I have about 6 credit cards I’m paying off and he owes me money on each one. To say I’m upset is putting is lightly. I haven’t been working. I’ve been on unemployment and he’s been working. I have two kids of my own (he’s not their dad) and I have enough expenses to worry. We live together (he doesn’t contribute rent) and we’re currently down rent $8k, I barely have $4k saved. He doesn’t even pay for utilities, I pay gas and electricity. How do I tell him nicely to pull his fucking weight? He makes $25/hr and only has his FEW credit cards, car, phone and insurance to pay. I’m getting fed up.