Hi everyone. (Sorry in advance for the long message) I’m posting on this thread because I’m hoping for some honest advice on telling my dear friend that I am expecting, due to the fact that the news could be potentially triggering. I’m about 9 weeks pregnant and have only told family. I’ve wanted to tell my best friend in the world- who was also MOH at my wedding, but sadly just back in early December she had a devastating MC at about 7 weeks, but didn’t find out til week 10. I was there for her from the beginning and went to stay with her for a few days after the fact. She’s like my sister, I want nothing but happiness for her and hope she falls pregnant again soon.

That being said, I feel like the longer I wait to tell her about me she might be offended that I hid the information for 2/3 months. Just this past week she was venting to me about how angry she was that another friend had gotten pregnant and she felt like it was a slap in the face, she’s sad and upset and rightfully so. I just feel sick to my stomach knowing she feels this way, and I’m so afraid to tell her about me. I feel like I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t. I know she will say she’s happy for me and be there for me, but I wanted to see if anyone has been thru a similar situation, and what is the best way to approach this. How can I word it to her without discounting the way she will feel? It’s just hard because I want to be happy but a part of me is still hurting for her loss.

Thanks in advance for any help <3