I’m a new mom. My husband told me how we talk about the baby all day so the evening should be about us and that time is getting more and more scarce. He mentioned how I continue to talk about the baby or look at the baby camera 1000 times. He also mentioned how we get hired help or help from family to reprieve us but I continue to look or talk about the baby.

Here’s what happened...We are new parents to an 8 week old boy. I have been in full mommy mode since he’s been born. I care for babe most of the time while my hubby takes care of the home and bills. My husband’s top priority is to make me happy and he works damn hard at it! We recently hired help once a week so we can have a date night! We don’t talk about the baby. I thought that was our us time but I guess it’s not enough?

Tonight, I was trying to put the baby to bed using another method because he was overstimulated by the godmother, my husbands family, who didn’t let him nap as much as he should. All good but this just means extra work for me in the evening. My husband came in annoyed that I had the overhead bright light on shining on the baby which we normally don’t use when it’s nighttime. He told me to leave the room and he’d put him to bed. I knew the baby wasn’t ready to be put in the bassinet and needing extra soothing. I let my husband do his thing and heard the baby cry and cry. I eventually stepped in and hubby and I argued. I resumed what I was doing earlier and put baby to bed. It worked. My husband usually lets me do my thing but tonight he wanted the baby in bed so we could eat the meal his godmother left us.

He said he screwed up and I’ll know more because I’m with the baby more often but I just need to be grateful for the help we have. He said this because I was complaining about the godmothers methods. We continued to argue and my husband told me how we talk about the baby all day and the evening it’s us time and that time is getting more and more scarce because I continue to talk about the baby or look at the baby camera 1000 times. He then dropped in how he changed the shower head and kitchen sink and it goes unappreciated but he gets it. He also mentioned how he’s home all day instead of at work to make me happy. Then he emphasized how we need to stop talking about “that” at night and have us time because what if he forgets to tell me something on date night because all week it’s about the baby. Then he lowered my phone volume while I was watching baby cry in bassinet to get ready to go in there and he kissed me. I got annoyed that he lowered the volume and he said he just wanted to kiss me.

This is all new behavior from him. What’s going on???? What can I do to help him feel good?is he feeling lonely? Needs more us time?? I’m working so hard and not sleeping. It’s hard to juggle it all but I want to understand hubby and meet his needs