For background knowledge my boyfriend will randomly go super distant from me and ignore me and not answer my texts. Then randomly start talking to me and being nice as if nothing happened. Usually we had an argument or something where he would do this and felt justified. But this time he hasn’t spoken to me for 5 days even though I texted him daily and he would read the messages. We were on a stretch where things had been really good for a while so I didn’t know what happened. The past two times he’s done this to me he’s broken up with me and the first time he spoke to me the next day as if it didn’t happen (after I begged him to have a conversation about it bc he just ghosted me but we work together so... can’t exactly do that). The second time I just said okay and then two days later he’s telling me he still loves me and wants to talk. During this two day “broken up” period he blatantly flirted with girls right in front of me and asked girls out making sure I heard him telling them they’re pretty. Really hurt my feelings but I’m chalking it up to he wanted to make me jealous. Anyway, since I’ve seen a pattern in this behavior I realized okay he’s probably going to break up with me again. But I’m really sick and tired of his constant ignoring me. He and I have had a conversation about how I would like him to at least tell me if he needs space from me. I get it, sometimes you just need your own time. He agreed but then didn’t tell me when he felt that way. So to me it was really good and he was asking when we could get together next to all of a sudden ignoring me and purposefully not saying goodbye to me when he would leave work.

So last night I could see he was reading my messages but still ignoring me. And people have told me he’s asking about me at work and trying to see how I’ve been. So I went off on him. Mind you he’s short tempered and I am extremely nice and careful. I actively try to be. In fact I don’t even cuss. So I cussed at him. I’m going to include screenshots of our short interaction. I don’t want it to be over between us and I know he’s going to need time to cool down but I’m scared I messed it up this time between us.

I guess I’m asking what I should do? How I should go about mending this?

Maybe he just felt overwhelmed?? Idk. He’s constantly asking me to move in with him and I’m not ready for that so I haven’t. I can’t imagine how he can see us living together if he wants to ignore me for days at a time.

Also to note his second language is English, so his writing isn’t always the best but you can get the idea.