Idk what to do. My fiance isn't doing oral/fingering because he doesn't want to, so I don't force him or expect him to do so. It's challenging for sure, but I support and understand him. He has a huge *thing* so I can't really complain in the long run, our sex life is great and I do end up orgasming from sex with him always. The problem is... no condoms fit him (we've tried everything). And it hasn't been a problem for the 5 years we've been together because we got tested and I got on BC.

Now, for unrelated reasons I am off BC for a month (just started a few days ago). I don't know how I'll handle not having sex for over a month.

I give him daily blowjobs because I love giving them (I prefer giving blowjobs over having sex, always have) so he'll be taken care off. I however won't. We could use condoms, but he is too large to fit into anything - please don't show me how they fit over a leg or an arm because we have tried and his *thing* becomes purple from the pressure - no special magnum condoms fit either (I wish I was making this up).

He can't just finger me or perform oral since I'm not a monster and couldn't possibly enjoy forcing him or seeing him struggle.

I am ranting because I am getting stressed. It's been a week since the last time we've had sex and it's already making me stressed, i have no idea how I'll handle an entire month.

We are not in a financial position to risk a pregnancy, so pulling out isn't an option.

The reason why I enjoy giving blowjobs has nothing to do with sex, I get no sexual pleasure from performing oral - it's different. I have a need to please (can't really explain) which is greater/more important than my/his sexual needs.

Update

He knows how to wear a condom. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Nothing fits. We have talked to a doctor and he was just as shocked as we were. His *thing* not only is long (which isn't the problem) he has girth which no condom can fit comfortably. We have tried, and he gets swollen within 5 minutes (purple swollen). Widest condoms available are still small for comfortable and safe use for him.

It's not that he doesn't want to, he has a problem with wet and slimey things (he can only take a quick shower, no bath, no swimming) no touching water, no slimey things in his food, hard to explain too, but 🤷🏻‍♀️ you should see the way he eats tomatoes - frozen solid and only the outer parts (I eat the middle).