My sister is getting married and I’m the MOH (wedding drama, yippee lol).

We had a bridesmaid drop out for personal reasons so my sister asked a friend (wife of the best man) if she could be a bridesmaid (obviously way later than everyone else).

We will call this friend E. Now E got married last year and didn’t ask my sister to be a bridesmaid.. sort of an awkward situation because my sisters fiancé dated E’s sister all through high school. So my sister didn’t ask E originally presumably for the same reason. They have gotten closer over the last few months and with the other bridesmaid dropping out my sister decided to ask her anyways.

When I found out the news I reached out to E saying “thanks for always being there for them and being a kind person. Let me know if you have any questions on any wedding stuff!”

My sister was very upset with me because she said I was making E feel bad for being the “back up” (I don’t think E told her this, because she said this to me within seconds of when I had even sent the message to E) and that I shouldn’t have texted her. I said well wouldn’t she feel worse if she didn’t know what we were all doing as a bridal party (i.e what time people are coming to the shower, to help set up beforehand, etc)?

Not to over share, but I’m physically currently going through a miscarriage so I’m feeling a little sensitive right now. So I just said, I guess I don’t know her that well and maybe I shouldn’t have texted her then... then I said I have to go and a nice day. She said OKAY annoyed and we hung up.

We haven’t talked since and I’m not sure if I’m in the wrong I guess. I’m upset she hasn’t even checked to see how I’m doing but I get she’s the bride right now. 😩