I work SO hard for our family. With Covid and my job shifting in the last year partially to WFH some days to cover my daughter in virtual school and having to balance the days in the office I am working the equivalent of 60 hour weeks. He also works a regular day office job but in a dead end role.. we combined all of our finances when we were married which is how I want things, BUT it is consistent in our relationship that I make more money and drive towards growth and promotions, and he spends money on his wants and justifys his job having no progress because it’s a ‘good schedule’ for our family.. frankly plenty of jobs could be a good schedule, and I don’t really care that he makes what he makes and isn’t trying to make more... what irritates me is that he does nothing to consider what is within our means.. he just buys what he wants and spins it as if it is something we need (like a new tool for his workshop or the yard) and he does it so much that literally all of our potential disposable income is used up by him.. when you look at our credit card or debit statements they look equal as if we spend the same, but when you look at the purchases all of the ‘needs’ (groceries, gas, utilities, etc) those are all on my account or card, and all of his wants are under him so it really isn’t like we spend equally. I love him and he has a good heart and is a great Dad, but he is so clueless and thoughtless when it comes to money.. I want to take a trip this year for our 10 year anniversary and I swear I would need to hide money to make it happen. It’s like we set mutual goals for something like that, but then he doesn’t do anything to make sure we can afford it by thinking twice about his spending 😡😡🤦‍♀️