So I’ve been dating this dude for what is about to be two years already. Met in college lived together a semester then graduated, moved and went separate ways but kept in contact.

We never had an actual label while we were together. But now that we are not we travel to trips now where we meet up with eachother in different cities to hangout and have sex. I think want a label but at the same time I don’t because he’s miles away across the country working.

I know I want to be with him but I’m just not willing to put in the effort of doing long distance. Nor do I know if I’m willing to go live with him. I don’t know why I self sabotage myself. Like what do I even say to him? “Hey I like you a lot and I want to be with you but I don’t think I can be THERE with you”??

That’s very selfish. And then he plans on moving to Oregon with his friends and I’m debating if it’s even worth saying anything at this point because I don’t want to get in the way of his plans. I don’t want to feel like an inconvenience. Part of me just wants him to say “come with me” but I know he’s not going to. I have no idea what he feels about us but I don’t know how exactly how to ask because I don’t know what answer I’m looking for?

I know I’m overthinking but I just miss him :(