Where are the attractive and mature men on dating apps?

First downloaded tinder before I went to uni. Used it sporadically found it weird

Didn’t meet anyone at uni so started using it a bit more often. I swipe and the only likes I get are people who I accidentally like. Guys are so weird on there, I kinda feel most of them are lazy and low quality

I’ll be talking to some guys who seem sweet but I can’t tell if I’m attracted to them from a photo. Especially when can’t meet them during lockdown. But then they try and make things sexual and flirty before we’ve even met, I find it weird, I just want to be friends until we meet not flirty or sexual to only be disappointed in person

I feel like the men on there are ‘boys’ but I’m looking for a man