Is this normal?

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I’m 18 years old (19 in august when my baby’s due) and about 4 foot 10 inches tall. Before I got pregnant I weighed 80-85 pounds. I am now 16 weeks pregnant weighing 95 pounds. My doctor said that I should have gained more, by the end of my pregnancy I should reach at least 115. To me that doesn’t seem possible. I’ve already gained like 10 pounds. I’ve never heard of anyone gaining 30 pounds during pregnancy.... they also said that they aren’t sure I will be able to deliver vaginally and the thought of a c-section or any surgery just freaks me out..

Also it’s a boy 🥳💙🤰🏼

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Weight gain up to like 40 pounds is pretty normal during pregnancy. 
Also, your doctor's concerns about a vaginal birth may not be unfounded, BUT... but there is nothing wrong with seeking about opinion or discussing your options further. It's your body, your baby, your pregnancy, and they cannot do anything you don't agree to no matter what. 
If you haven't already I suggest finding a birthing class to take (I did mine at 35 weeks after finaihedbir a week before giving birth so it's never too late). Or at the very least read up on some natural birth practices, ways to help you and baby through labor, and make sure whoever is going to be with your during labor and delivery is going to be able to help you advocate for the birth you want and help your make the decisions you want to make. Support is #1! After that this was the biggest help to me: 
Using Your B.R.A.I.N to Make
Decisions in Pregnancy, Labor, and Birth
B-What are the BENEFITS of
doing this ?
R-Are there any RISK involved?
A-Are there any AITERNATIVES to
having this done?
I-What does my INTUITION say? N-What happens if I do NOTHING
right now?
Taking the time to use your B.R.A.I.N allows you to make informed decisions you're confident in for YOUR pregnancy and baby!

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I gained 50lbs with my first, and will probably gain that much again this pregnancy. My mom gained 80lbs her last pregnancy. As long as you’re eating well, getting a little exercise, and baby and you are healthy, your weight gain really doesn’t matter, be it a lot or a little. 
As other commenters have noted, it’s quite rare for a woman to grow a baby too big for her to birth (and it often happens as a result of chronic malnourishment). Being short does not necessarily mean you need a csection. Anecdotally, my good friend is ‘5ft nothing,’ very petite and gave birth to her twins vaginally at 37 weeks pregnant and 34 years old. 
Ask your dr what their csection rate is - some practices will push women to go that route because it is more convenient (and more lucrative). Do your research and advocate for yourself and the birth that you want.

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Please!! Please!! Do not let them talk you into a csection ask them whats the VALID reason of them giving you a csection. Your young so they will take advantage of you in all ways possible, especially with a c section, a c section is a major surgery and they make more money that way, that’s why they try to take advantage. So ask them for a valid reason if there isn’t please try to find another doctor or talk them down as much as possible.

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I didn’t gain much in the beginning of my pregnancy (on my second at the moment) but then around week 25 or so it kicked in and went up quickly. Believe me; it’s possible 😂 Different women gain more at different stages I think so don’t worry about not following the curve your doctors are expecting.

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It’s normal to gain weight in pregnancy, before I was pregnant I couldn’t gain weight at all. With my first I was also 18 and delivered at 19 and they said the same thing about probably not being able to deliver vaginally and I had him quickly with no complications and NO surgery. Before pregnancy I was 135 (I’m 5’7) and when I delivered I was 186. So gaining the 30lbs won’t be a stretch.

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With my first I gain 80 pounds and I was 98 and went 176 at delivery. And I was too narrow but my doctor didn’t want me to have a c section even though i was so tiny at the beginning. But I was bedrest at 19 weeks because I was going into labor they gave me steroids￼ and shots to help stop labor

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I gain 50 exactly all 3 pregnancies so far I’m 27-28 weeks and already 30lbd on I eat great and excercise I think sometimes our bodies just gain or don’t gain

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I’m 19 weeks and haven’t gained a single pound I’ve actually lost 10, my ob doesn’t seem concerned, she told me that within the 3rd trimester I do need to start gaining weight

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I gained 60 with my first so yeah it’s a possibility. I think they are just concerned because your a smaller framed person, it’s not impossible to gain the weight but let
Your body do what it does naturally, don’t push yourself to gain a bunch of weight.

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I gained about 30 pounds with my first baby. I think depending on your starting weight, 30 pounds is about average for the amount you are supposed to gain. It all depends on your start weight though. People who are heavier might gain less then someone smaller. The dr has a chart of the healthy weight gain for your size, at least mine does. Bot gaining enough weight is not healthy for your pregnancy just like gaining too much weight isn’t either. That’s just my understanding though 🤷‍♀️ I do believe my mom was about 98 pounds when she got pregnant with my sister and she ended up gaining like 50 pounds while pregnant. She was underweight before pregnancy though

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