I was just talking to my therapist, and she claims that married couples who are happy together are having healthy sex/are "fucking their brains out" (her words). Just seems a little intense of a claim, but I've never been married.

She also said that a straight guy probably couldn't spend the night in bed with a woman and not get turned on, even just from his biological needs. Unless his system isn't working correctly.

She was telling me these things because she wanted to prepare me for talking to my boyfriend, when I bring up our relationship. Have had sex once in three months. She thinks he's probably not interested anymore.

Well either way, I just wanted to see how you all feel about the married life and/or about a straight guy not being able to get through the night, sharing a bed with a woman, without getting turned on.

Thanks in advance, just kind of not feeling so great emotionally right now.

UPDATE:

Thank you for all of the responses, truly. I definitely thought it was weird hearing that, because I felt like guys don't have to have a crazy sex drive or no self control just because they are guys.

I think her point in saying these things was to point out that my boyfriend would be trying to have sex with me more often, if he was actually still interested in being with me.

I do find it comforting to hear that your sex lives haven't really changed from before marriage. Might just be time to talk to the boyfriend and see where he is at. We just might have outlived our relationship (just passed the 4 year mark). 😕