I don’t know what to do here....

So I’ve been with my SO for coming up 5 years. We decided to start TTC in November 2017. We discussed marriage and he agrees that he does want to get married. He confessed to me some time ago that he absolutely wants to have a baby with me but he thinks the reason we can’t get pregnant is because in his head, he thinks we should be married before we have a baby. I totally get where he’s coming from and part of me feels that way too but we still continue to have unprotected sex and we did manage to get pregnant in august that ended in a miscarriage. He was over the moon excited when I told him I was pregnant but I had to tell him that it didn’t take and I was going through an early miscarriage. He was 💯 supportive and we continue to try.

The problem is, we only have sex a couple of times a month and I no longer track ovulation with test strips. When we do have sex, sometimes he can get off and sometimes he can’t. It’s usually when I’m close to ovulation but I don’t tell him when I’m ovulating anymore. He just knows somehow. Well, as he’s told me before, he’s fighting a battle in his head about us being married first. Soo you would think if he wants it that badly with me... he would have proposed by now. He wants it and will commit but why is he waiting so long? I’m 31 and he’s turning 33 in a couple of weeks. The longer we struggle to conceive, our chances of ever having a baby become less and less.

I’m sorry for the long post but I just don’t know what to do or say to him. I don’t want him to feel pressured to get married but I’m struggling to see why he’s holding back.