MIL controversy: would you be annoyed if your MIL came to your house, unannounced, and tried to guess the door code to get inside to deliver an exzema cream for my toddler we didn’t ask for? She knew we were both at work.

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Imagine if it was your own mom and not your mil, would you still care that much?

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She definitely overstepped even if there was good intentions behind it. If she wanted you to have it that bad, she could’ve waited until a time one of you was available to meet up w her or left it outside

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If she wanted to be thoughtful, she could have ordered it off of Amazon to be sent to your address. Coming over unannounced is rude, letting herself in is way overstepping. I’d be changing the locks and she wouldn’t have a key.

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This isn't a controversy, this is a personal issue.

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OVERSTEPPING ? more like the lady’s doing a pole vault over the line. i have a crazy security system tho, two wrong guesses and the police are called. it’s also connected to my phone specifically for that reason (if my parents or my PIL are visiting i don’t have to be home to open the doors) so yeah i’d be pissed. we have signs on our lawn that say “no unexpected guests” and “don’t knock call *insert my number*” lol if you can’t tell i really don’t like people in my house

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Ive learned with mother in laws you really gotta pick your battles!!  I would just say next time you come over if we arent home leave it at the door. 
My mother in law stressed me out so much i had to go on anti anxiety meds! When we told her we were pregnant she spent forty mins twlling me about a girl my husband grew up with who she just lovedddd and hoped they wouldve gotten married. She judged every single thing i said or did as a new mom and then to make it worse would discuss it with her sister/ brother and mom plus their significant others so whenever wed go over for dinners id have them talking to me about that shit. I addressed it but never made a scene. Then one day my daughter just coming off a cold so she was crabby and lazy wouldnt clean something up. I said no we always clean up our mess you put that away ill put this stuff away, MIL comes in and aays oh baby dont worry ill help u clean im like(rudely) no she can do it and as i was saying that she picked up my child and walked away and said im not listening to you talk to her like that! (There was four other ppl in the room that said i was not talking rudely to my kid at all!). I took my daughter back and didnt see my MIL for almost six months and that includes my kid!  
If she is the type to overstep she will do something that will make u break and thats when u show her ur not fucking around. But if its something that just annoyed you id just address.

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No anonymous posting in this group. Also, this is probably not the right room for this topic

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Honestly I hate when anyone comes to my house unexpectedly, that's just the kind of person I am. In this case I'd be more angry that she tried to get in your house instead of just waiting until you guys were home or something

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If she left it on the porch or in the mailbox, it’s thoughtful. To try to break in, overstepping

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Overstepping, but I wouldn’t go off on her or anything, just annoyed and would communicate that to her. 
I don’t care who you are, don’t come unannounced. My FIL has keys, knows the codes...he always calls to come over, even if it’s just to drop something off in our garage. We didn’t tell him to do that, he does it anyway. So, it’s not an abnormal concept.

MIL controversy: would you be annoyed if your MIL came to your house, unannounced, and tried to guess the door code to get inside to deliver an exzema cream for my toddler we didn’t ask for? She knew we were both at work.

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