Secret pregnancy

How long did you keep your pregnancy a secret. We lost our first baby late in pregnancy so we didn’t tell anyone about our daughter til we were 16 weeks. But I was small and didn’t even really show with her til 30 weeks. Next baby I think I’m gonna keep secret for a bit. Especially since we want them close and I don’t wanna deal with the judging. But also in debating... we’re team green with this baby since we have one of each so that’ll already be a secret for everyone... I’m not sure. We’ve had loss so I want to protect feelings but I also want to try my best to enjoy my next pregnancy since the last too have been rough. I just want to have a different mind set. pregnancy after loss is hard and I don’t know if it’s better to protect myself or risk being hurt for the chance to have more joy...