Who cleans the house?

Who does most of the cleaning in your home?

My SO doesn’t help with cleaning. Unless he’s asked. And even then, he’ll do the bare minimum. We both work full time. We also have a toddler and I’m pregnant with baby 2. While also working full time, I’m also a full time stay at home mom with my toddler. So I work and care for him during the week.

For whatever reason, he expects me to also care for all of the cleaning because I’m home all day. When I ask if he would mind helping a little he says “I don’t really WANT to do it but I guess it has to be done”.. and huffs and puffs until he’s done. His argument is no one wants to adult ever and he should get to lay around and relax on his days off. I never get to lay around.....

When I bring up that it would help me out if he helped more around the house and with our toddler, he tells me I need to ASK him to do things. So, as requested, I’ll ask for help with things. But it’s always a groaning response from him when I do. So I ask what’s wrong and I get “you sound more like my mother than you do a girlfriend”...

On top of caring for my son and cleaning the house, I also do all of the food shopping/personal shopping for our son. I cook all the meals and usually end up being the one to clean up after or any messes our son makes. I do everything for our son (bath, bedtime routine, diaper changes, meal time etc.).

Because of my crazy busy days into nights, I’m tired by 9pm and in the mornings I sleep as late as I can before our toddler gets up to start the day. Needless to say, sex life is nonexistent. To which he gets mad that “you never even try anymore”.... I barely have the energy to do anything for myself and he expects me to want to do other things. I’m a tired drained overwhelmed momma and when I say this, it gets nowhere.

Ladies, I’m at a loss on how to further approach this situation. What do I do??

Sorry for the long rant

-One exhausted Momma