What should I do?

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I’m a 21y (F) and I’m a mother of 2. I’ve been celibate for almost 3 years and I met this guy that was very sweet at first and we started having sex, I kept asking him to put a condom on and I thought he did ( we were in the dark). That’s my mistake for not checking. We’ve been having sex every week. And I just took a pregnancy test and I am pregnant. I really don’t want another child, I’m having mixed emotions. Plus the guy lives directly across the street from him. What should I do? Should I tell him? I’m so upset and feel confused. Obviously I have to take some of the blame as well. And I know it’s some judgmental people on here but I’m prepared to hear all the judgment, I deserve it anyway smh.

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Honestly it’s your decision it sounds like you already know what you want and that’s fine. If you know you don’t want another child that’s good for you there’s a lot of women who talk themselves into having another. Although I do think you should tell him “hey I’m pregnant but I don’t want to keep it” you know what you can handle.

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Are you sure it didn't wear a condom because you can still get pregnant with condom

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Okay so even if he was wearing a condom, they do have a failure rate even with perfect use.  I am pregnant and we used condoms every time, with no issues.  So I wouldn’t automatically assume he wasn’t wearing one.  But if he wasn’t, that’s definitely a major issue. 
If you’re debating not keeping the baby, then I’d wait until you make a decision before saying anything. 
If you plan to have this baby, I’d tell him soon as you shouldn’t have to carry the burden of an unplanned pregnancy alone.  
I’d also get tested for std’s ASAP 
No judgment here though.  Humans are sexual beings and things don’t always go as planned.

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You definitely DON'T need to take any blame. You consented to sex with a condom, and told him multiple times to put one on. You shouldn't have to check to make sure a grown man is abiding by your request to use protection. Don't feel guilty and do not feel like this pregnancy is due to your mistake.
I know you have a lot on your plate but I'd also like to just suggest that you get an STD check, just in case. Chances are you're not the first he's done this too and you never know if he's got something to pass to you.
Whatever decision you make, it's the right one. You aren't obligated to tell him, because in my eyes, choosing to ignore somebody's request to wear a condom is assault.
I hope you're okay. ❤

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You should talk to him.. also are you positive he didn't wear a condom.. sometimes condoms fail if they aren't put on properly etc. Get tested for everything. Also if he didn't wear a condom without your consent that's F @$ked up.

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I did say u should talk to him..u will be fine ofc it will take some time to adjust.but pls is not just pregnancy u should be upset about,what about std or sti pls make sure those are check out from the list before deciding what to do about the pregnancy..wishing u all the best

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