Am I a bad mother and wife😢

A lot has been going on with family. Our 18 year old son got arrested and is in jail right now. I found out our 15 year old daughter has been drinking and doing acid. I lost my job last week and recently had a miscarriage.

Everything has been so hard and I feel like my husband has let em deal with my feelings alone. Especially the miscarriage... I had to get a d/c and he wasn't even with me when it happened or two days after. He was at his brothers house... He didn't even mention my d/c or miscarriage when he came back... Things are stressful with trying to get our son out of jail and our daughter in therapy. But I feel like I'm dealing with most of it while my husband just stays outside and vapes. He had quit vaping 2 years ago and recently started. I finally told him about my feelings today and he said he doesn't want to think about a baby that wasn't even developed yet when we have 2 live kids and ones in jail and the other is doing drugs. That hurt me because it seemed like I was the only one who cared about the baby. He said he's not gonna pretend to feel depressed about the miscarriage to make me feel better and that everything in our life is already horrible. I said I didn't want him to pretend and we have good things in our life and we have an amazing family. He then said "No we don't. One kid is in jail. The other is on a gateway to cocaine. You lost your job and I'm back there vaping like a douchebag! Our family sucks". And then he walked away and went into the bedroom...m Honest I just feel like a horrible mom and wife. My kids are making terrible decisions.... What am I doing wrong?