Husband hasn’t eaten me out in 2 years

He says it’s not necessary to do to a women but he wants me to eat him he wants me to suck his dick. I ask him yesterday night I said to use his tongue all over my body he said he won’t be using his tongue. He only did it twice in almost 5 whole years together. I remember my ex did everything to please me but not him I told him I will get a fucking divorce I’ve gotten to resent him so much the worst part is he just falls asleep after I fight with him it makes me resent much more it feels good when we do it but I want to be fingered and eaten out. I did tell him that’s when he said it wasn’t necessary to do to women. I’ve asked him many times he just stays shut sometimes and I hate it because I shower and wash myself well just in case so I could smell as good as possible down there and nothing.