I’m not close to my MIL and she wanted to come two weeks before and after my delivery

My biological family is overseas. Right now it’s only me and my husband living in our house and away from his family as well. (Different states) I have to admit, I am not close close with any of my in laws. I have one that I like but she has 4 kids and can’t visit.

My MIL and FIL and my husband’s friend want to be there once my baby is delivered and suddenly my anxiety went up to the roof for gazillion of reasons.

1. This is going to be our rainbow baby. I had 2 miscarries. So ya’ll mommies that had miscarriages can understand the anxiety. I’m only 13weeks right now and already stressing out people touching and kissing my newborn.

2. I can’t trust my MIL. I love and respect her but not that much. She’s been using drugs and been sober for years. She’s a dearly hippy from Oregon but her personally hygiene and attitude, I can’t trust.

3. I cooked everytime I see them before and I don’t want to be stressing out if everybody already ate while I’m healing and nursing my child (if God’s will)

4. I opened this up to my husband and I think I offended his feeling. His parents think that this will be their last Grandchild to see while they are still alive which I get it. But you know what I mean?

I’m trying not to stress up. But just imagining them holding my child while I’m asleep. I won’t be able to rest.

I’d rather have my husband keep and eye on our baby while I rest like what newly parents should do.